10 Things to Never Say to Someone With Depression

This is just as applicable to stroke survivors. You could hand this to your friends and family when they start making insensitive remarks.
http://www.livestrong.com/slideshow/1011498-10-things-never-say-someone-depression/?

Overview

Depression is undoubtedly common -- 6.7 percent of people 18 and older had at least one depressive episode in 2013, according to the National Institute of Mental Health -- and it’s likely you’ll eventually have to deal with a loved one who’s suffering. Trouble is, there’s no playbook to advise you what you should or (worse yet) shouldn’t say to them. One thing is clear, though: If you suspect a loved one is suffering from depression, speak up. “Saying something might not only prompt them to get treatment, it also validates their feelings and makes the person feel less alone, both of which are invaluable to somebody who’s depressed,” says Susan J. Noonan, M.D., M.P.H., board-certified physician consulting with Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston and author of “Managing Your Depression.” Noonan speaks from experience: She suffered her first bout of depression as a teenager. When talking with your loved one, avoid saying the following 10 things.

1. “There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just being lazy.”

2. “You think you have problems? You should hear what I’m dealing with.”

3. “You can choose to be happy.”

4. “Depression isn’t a legit medical condition.”

5. “Can’t you just get over it?”

6. “You’re a guy. You can’t be depressed.”

7. “Maybe you should take a break so you can deal with your condition.”

8. “Your problems won’t go away if you keep talking about them.”

9. “If you pray/sleep/eat better, you’ll feel better.”

10. “Pull yourself up and get going.”

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