13 habits of people who have a fulfilling life at midlife and beyond

Is your doctor and social worker making sure you have these post stroke? Do they even know about them? I'm not succeeding at #10.
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1. They don’t buy into the negative social conditioning and stereotyping of what the rest of the world dictates life at midlife and beyond is like. Instead, they decide for themselves how they want this stage of life to be and then find ways to make it so.
2. They have created their own definition of success based on their values and what is most important to them and are building every area of their life around that.
3. They don’t allow themselves to get knocked off track by setbacks, challenges or things going wrong. They accept that is all part of creating a fulfilling life.
4. They don’t do drama, and they don’t engage in other people’s drama either. Drama is such an energy drain, whether it is your own or someone else’s. Fulfilled people don’t have time for that sort of nonsense.
5. They don’t settle for mediocrity. If their life isn’t the way that they want it, they don’t just settle for it. They get off their arse and do something about it. Fulfilled people don’t wallow in pity parties!
6. They surround themselves with positive, can-do, constructive people. On the flip side, they protect themselves from energy draining and toxic people.
7. They have strong personal boundaries that protect the fulfilling life they have created.
8. They look after themselves. It is very difficult to feel fulfilled if you are always feeling like crap. Fulfilled people prioritise their health and wellbeing.
9. They don’t compare themselves or their lives to other people’s. They focus on their own lives and how they want it to be.
10. The don’t fall into the being constantly busy habit. Fulfilled people have a habit of pacing themselves, thus avoiding a lot of stress and overwhelm. We live in a world that seems to glorify being constantly busy and ignore how destructive it is in many ways and on many different levels. Fulfilled people march to the beat of their own drum.
11. They don’t take themselves or life too seriously.
12. They don’t define themselves by their age. They know age has nothing to do with the possibility of having a deeply fulfilling life.
13. They get that fulfillment lies in simplicity. Their lives are often built around simplicity as a core value.

10 Simple Habits Proven to Make You Happier - After your stroke

How is your doctor, social worker, and psychologist making sure you are happy regardless of the outcome of your stroke? All the incredible physical things I used to love doing are now impossible so I've replaced them with numerous new social connections.  Until SOMEONE ELSE  HAS SOLVED THE SPASTICITY PROBLEM I won't be able to get back to them.
http://www.spring.org.uk/2014/03/10-simple-habits-proven-to-make-you-happier.php 

The finding comes from a survey carried out by the charity Action for Happiness, in collaboration with Do Something Different.

For their survey, they identified ten everyday habits which science has shown can make people happier.

Here are the 10 habits, with the average ratings of survey participants on a scale of 1-10, as to how often they performed each habit:

1. Giving: do things for others — 7.41
2. Relating: connect with people — 7.36
3. Exercising: take care of your body — 5.88
4. Appreciating: notice the world around — 6.57
5. Trying out: keep learning new things — 6.26
6. Direction: have goals to look forward to 6.08
7. Resilience: find ways to bounce back — 6.33
8. Emotion: take a positive approach — 6.74
9. Acceptance: be comfortable with who you are — 5.56
10. Meaning: be part of something bigger — 6.38

(You’ll notice that the first letters spell out the words GREAT DREAM.)

The survey showed that one of the largest associations between these happy habits and reported happiness was for self-acceptance.

This category, though, got the lowest rating for people actually performing the habit, with an average of only 5.56.

Top of the list of happy habits that people performed was ‘giving’.

In this category, one in six reported a 10 out of 10; just over one-third scored an 8 or 9; slightly fewer scored 6 or 7; and less than one in six (15%) rated themselves at 5 or less.

7 simple social skills that will make you more likable

Your hospital psychologist or social worker should be prepping you for this need. You will almost assuredly lose most of your friends and need to replace them. Aristotle puts friends into three categories;utility, friendship of pleasure, and virtuous friendship.You likely will lose all of the first two categories.
7 simple social skills that will make you more likable

1. Make eye contact.

2. Put your smartphone in your pocket.

3. Call people by name.

4. Smile.

5. Give a firm handshake.

6. Listen.

7. Don't just listen — actively listen.

Want To Train Your Brain To Feel More Compassion? Here’s How

You might want the social workers at the hospital to train your relatives and friends in compassion towards you rather than judging you for not being who you used to be.
http://www.fastcoexist.com/3037045/want-to-train-your-brain-to-feel-more-compassion-heres-how